The Difference is in the Details
When I put together the book Pillow Talk, it was, at first, because my publisher said to "hurry and get something else out there" to keep my name in everyone's peripheral vision, with the success of Captive Heart.
I was just finishing up my relational coaching education and truly, truly believe that communication is vital for every and all relationships be it romantic, work-related, family or friendships. I did want to have a presence on the non-fiction lists as well so I put my mind to it. What could I come up with quickly and still fall under the above parameters?
I put together lists and lists of questions and surveyed lists and lists of people to find out what makes them tick. Did a little more research to find out that the best (but usually wasted) time to really communicate with your mate was those few minutes before you fall asleep... and well, Pillow Talk was born.
And yes, it was literally just thrown out there. No publicity, no promotion and a LOT of flack because I put myself on the front cover. So. Taken back a few notches on the self-esteem ladder, I just let it... be. And I even was thinking to myself that I should just pull it from the shelves.
But then... along comes a research study that supports EVERYTHING Pillow Talk stands for! Not just communication... but a KNOWING. Pillow Talk initiates that level of knowing. Let me back up...
An article in Time Magazine written by Francine Russo talked about the deeper fundamentals of communication that comes from knowing your partner's intimate details such as favorite color, desserts to understanding how they feel about the afterlife and such.
Couples who knew these finite details about each other seemed to have stronger connections and their relationships last longer. "Learning more about your partner could be relatively easy if people (especially men, since they scored worse in this area) took the trouble to find out, remember and put to use such relatively simple information," says Robert Epstein, professor of psychology at the University of South Pacific. (who was quoted in the article)
This gives me renewed hope that Pillow Talk really could be everything I had originally hoped.
Pillow Talk has seven sections of questions that can either be a jumping off point for more conversation or just something to kill time with while spending time together. It's both fun and informative and now... it can even help your relationship last longer and become stronger!!
There's questions in Pillow Talk for couples in every stage of their relationship. Some couples have even used the questions to see how much their partner already knows.
Hopefully, this will give Pillow Talk that little extra push to encourage people to give it a chance. It really is a good little book. Very helpful. Very fun...
So, if you haven't gotten your copy order one today! Use it to get closer to the ones that you love by learning (and remembering) those wonderful little details that make your partner unique.
Let me know in the comments below how you made use of Pillow Talk in your relationships! I mean, Time Magazine says these questions are vital! Better get a copy and get on it! Lol!
Who IS that guy in the Pillow Talk photos with you?
Pillow Talk's Front Cover