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Instead of Looking for the Right Person, Become the Right Person

2/18/2014

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Instead of Looking for the Right Person, Become the Right Person

​"If you attempt to build intimacy with a person before you've done the hard work of becoming a whole and healthy person, every relationship will be an attempt to complete the hole in your heart and the lack of what you don't have.  That relationship will end in disaster."
                                                                                 -Les and Leslie Parrott

If I may paraphrase the above, what that comment is saying to me is that if you are looking for someone to "complete you" then you have already lost.  I believe they are trying to teach us to become the person we are happy and satisfied with  by building our own self-confidence so when the right person comes along, he/she is merely a happy addition to our lives.  We don't feel that obsessive NEED for that person.  We don't have to have this person or that person because something is missing in our lives.  We can be happy on our own, but we can also be ecstatic that they have joined us on our journey.  Love will come to you.  Maybe not in your time frame, so you need to be happy with your own company until that right someone does come along.

So how do we go about becoming the right person?  How do we find the patience to wait on love while we are making ourselves into the right person to be loved?  
Practice love.  
Emulate love. 
 Become the person that walks in love and not just wishes for it.

There's this saying:  The way you do anything is the way you do everything.  We can put that into practice here.  Your "anythings" are your unconscious decisions that you make on a daily basis.  Your way of doing things.  The evolutional attitude you've created.  And it can be observed in everything you do.  We prefer to focus on what we want to see and hear, both for the good and bad.  And that's true of everyone.  But no matter how we try and taint or twist the evidence we present to others for our favor, actions reveal our true character.  So make sure your character is one that can stand the test.

All of your "anythings" create your everything life.  You are who you are in the dark.  So, perhaps we should shine the light and look at who you really are and how the rest of the world sees you?

I am just under six feet tall and I have bright red hair.  My mother made it a point to teach me, that no matter where I am, or where I go, someone is always watching me.  She wasn't necessarily telling me this to frighten me, she was reminding me that I stick out like a sore thumb and if I do something stupid, I WILL get caught.  And it worked.  I took years of ballet to make sure I walk with poise and grace.  I've studied etiquette to be sure I always have polite manners... so on and so forth...  Now that I am a public figure, my character is up for grabs as well. (1 Timothy 4:12)  I am not perfect by any means, and in spite of my many years of ballet, I still manage to fall flat on my face.  But I do try and live an honest life.  What you see is what you get.   I try to walk in love.  I have bad days, just like everyone else, but how you do anything is how you do everything.  Even on those bad days, I walk in love.  There may be an edge to my voice, or my eyes may not sparkle through whatever I'm going through, but hopefully you will know that I am sending love your way.

As you know, I am a big component of if you give love you will receive love.  Sometimes not in the direction you were expecting, but the rule has always held true for me.  Meaning, you see this totally beautiful person standing across the room so you send out love in his direction... he may not respond.  But that love will bounce around the room and suddenly, someone will come up to you and tell you that you have the most beautiful smile.  So, it may not be from the hot guy, but that only means that he wasn't for you.  So keeping that in mind, are you giving love?  Are you the kind of person others can love?  Do you walk in love?  Are you patient and kind?  Do you show respect for others?  Do you live a life of integrity?  You can only pretend to be someone else for a short amount of time.  The real you will always come to the surface.  Who are you when no one else is around?

Love is sacrificial and learning to put others first.  Are you in a "ME" kind of mindset?

If you have been making the same kind of relationship mistakes over and over and ending up in the same hurtful place, start with yourself.  Do you love yourself?  If you don't love you, how can someone else?  Look hard in the mirror.  Fall in love with the face staring back at you.  Let love begin with you.  Create a fulfilling, healthy, whole relationship with you.  Make the changes that need to be made that will make others see how truly wonderful you are.  How you do anything is how you do everything.  Start with you.  Walk in love.  Put others first.  Send love out and it will come back to you.

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Cleve Sylcox link
2/20/2014 05:02:11 am

Love your Blog...

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Freda Jones
4/8/2018 07:08:37 am

Elizabeth, I have been reading your thoughts on website. You are a wise young woman in my eyes. My heart is so happy to have been able to spend time with you. I am spreading your name to all I know. You inspire this 70 yr old woman. I wish I could express how honored I am to have been in your presence!!

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Elizabeth
4/11/2018 10:17:25 am

Freda,
The honor is truly mine! I believe that our steps are guided and we were meant to cross paths. I am so glad to have been able to spend time in your company!
I am blessed that you believe in my work and it touches your heart. It gives me motivation to keep moving forward and affirmation that I am doing what I'm supposed to!
Many blessings to you and I'm sure our paths will cross again!
-Elizabeth

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Freda
4/16/2018 09:02:57 am

❤️😘🙏

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