I was never really much of a "goal-oriented" person, and it shows. If you don't have goals, ultimately, someone else chooses your path for you. If you don't have a specific direction you want to go, the world will force your hand. I was a prime example of that.
Fell into this job or that job, going where the wind would take me. This relationship, that one. Blaming everyone else for the bad things that happened in my life. When I figured out that the same things kept happening to me everywhere I went... I realized that I was the common denominator. When you realize that you can be in charge of the rest or your life, its pretty empowering. But I had to make that change. Stop blaming, take responsibility. Don't just float along, choose a direction.
Once I figured out that when you have something to work towards, you have direction. And when you have direction, you can create a "road map". (Now,there's an analogy I can get behind!)
You see your end goal, you're just building in the stops along the way. Smaller goals to work toward your big goal. Your elephant.
You CAN reach your goals. You can eat the elephant! The trick really is breaking it down to smaller bite size pieces. Think about the small things you can do everyday to whittle away the giant oak. Don't let yourself make excuses like keeping your job or the lack of funds stand in your way, because, believe me, there's plenty of reasons NOT to do something. Don't let others get control of your dreams. For every moment you are not working on YOUR goals, you could be achieving someone else's.
It all starts with the decision to make A change. Choose your direction. Set a goal. I believe that we can achieve great things if we put forth the effort and take it "one bite at a time".
"It isn't sufficient just to want- You've got to ask yourself what you are going to do to get the things you want."
- Franklin D. Roosevelt