I am not here to judge. I am not here to make you feel bad. I'm not here to mock you.
I am here to help lift you up. support you, give you my best advice and pray for you. But I can't fix things for you.
The one common denominator I have been seeing lately is, lack of accountability. Looking to blame... not wanting to take responsibility for your part.
Every day, we have choices to make. Nothing happens overnight.
-Your marriage/relationship is failing.
-You've slipped into alcoholism, drug abuse, addiction of any number of things
-You are unhealthily over-weight.
-You have diabetes
-You are broke.
Granted, there are extremes to every example and obviously I can't address those, but in general, you are the reason you are where you are.
What decisions have you made lately?
Nothing happens overnight.
The end result accumulates from dozens of little decisions you make along the way.
Affairs are always a choice.
You choose to say yes to another drink.
You choose to eat things that you know are bad for your body.
You choose where your money goes. You choose to live beyond your means.
I do not say these things to be cruel or seem unfeeling. But the moment, the VERY moment we choose to take control of our lives, you WILL see a change.
And, no, I don't sit from lofty grounds looking down at the masses. I am right there with you.
I am on a mandatory diet because I couldn't put down the Cherry Vanilla Pepsi. (Have you tried that?? Omigosh! It's like CRACK!! I went from drinking NO soda to one, two or three sodas a day... My waistline responded immediately!)
While this may be a minor example, it just shows that it starts with ONE decision... and with that one decision to purchase a case of soda, also came with the foods that go best with soda. Pizza, popcorn, chips...
It stops with one decision as well. This one may be a bit harder, but what I choose as a priority dominates my decisions. My body isn't happy when I poison it with too much junk and it is sure to let me know! It is a priority that I no longer want to be uncomfortable in my clothes. It is now a priority to not spend my money on things that are not beneficial to me.
Yes, I am going through withdrawals and it is tough, but I've made my decision.
What decisions are you making to strengthen your relationships? Are you making your mate your priority? Are you allowing someone else to distract you from the one you are committed to? Make your partner your top priority.
Are you struggling with an addiction? Make the choice for a different tomorrow. Do it right now and find someone to help hold you accountable and get you through to the next decision. One decision at a time. It starts with one.
I am here to help you, and we'll get back to that, but before you tell me what everyone else is doing to you, and how it's their fault, check to see what choices you have made to contribute to the situation. Yes, I said contribute. Because if we realize it or not, our choices have helped get us here.
It starts with one decision. Turn yourself toward the right path one choice at a time.